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      Many people can be led to live a conflictual couple relationship, but to speak of narcissistic perversion it is to have what we call a RIGID COMPLEMENTARY RELATIONSHIP : which functions like an interactional dance between two partners who respectively have for one a superior position (one up) and the other a subordinate position (one down).

      How is this kind of relationship built?

      Three indicators must be taken into account:

      1. DEMAND vs SACRIFICE : On the one hand there is someone (he) who is never attuned to the will of the other (her) and who demands that the relationship serve above all the satisfaction of his needs ( SPOILED CHILD) . On the other side, there is her who accepts the conditions demanded by the partner by sacrificing herself. So we build an interactive game in which the one who sacrifices himself, paradoxically reinforces the behavior of the one he demands.
      2. DEVALORATION vs NEED FOR RECOGNITION : repeated and systematic criticism, also of individual acts of daily life, for example of how to clean vegetables, how to drive, how to dress, speak or educate their children . Often criticism is camouflaged as teaching advice or as jokes, with the result that the victim will be further confused and confused. A dance that she does in a subordinate position (down) so as not to lose him, and a dance that for him means that she must perform (superiority). In the end she does all this with the idea: "I have value and one day I hope he will recognize her"
      3. LACK OF TUNE WITH THE OTHER vs SEARCH FOR VISIBILITY: On the one hand, there is him who has no interest in deep experiences with the other, we could define him as: an EMOTIONAL ILLITERATE . (He is like a Magician: he disappears when the time comes to listen to the other. On the other side, there is her who seeks to be noticed more and more, using all possible means.

      This interactional couple's game is a scenario which, if repeated over and over again, is likely to lead to stalking, which finds its origin can be linked to any pathological obsession.

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      Molte persone vivono relazioni di coppia conflicttuali ma per poter parlare di perversione narcisistica è necessario che si crei una RELAZIONE RIGIDA COMPLEMENTARE: una danza interattiva tra due partner che hanno rispettivamente una posizione superiore (one up) et una posizione subordinata (one down).

      Come if costruisce questo tipo di relazione?

      Dobbiamo take in consideration 3 indicators:

      1. PRETESA vs SACRIFICIO : un lui mai sintonizzato sui desideri dell'altra che pretende che la relazione sia impostata completamente in modo da soddisfare i suoi bisogni (BAMBINO VIZIATO). Dall'altro lato una lei che acconsente alle richieste pretese anche sacrificandosi. Si costruisce cosi, un Gioco interattivo in cui chi si sacrifica non fa che rinforzare paradossalmente il comportamento di pretesa.
      2. SVALUTAZIONE vs BISOGNO DI RICONOSCIMENTO : criticism continues and system also sui singoli atti della vita quotidiana, dal modo di pulire le verdure, al modo di guidare al modo di vestire, parlare o educare i figli. Spesso le critiche sono cammuffate come consigli pedagogici o come battte di spirito, con la conseguenza di disorientare e perturbare ancora di piu' la vittima. Una danza in cui lei è costantemente down per non perderlo, e lui costantemente up per essere venerato. Lei agisce così spinta dell'idea: "Io valgo e lui prima o poi lo riconoscerà."
      3. MANCANZA DI SINTONIZZAZIONE CON L'ALTRO vs RICERCA DI VISIBILITA' : Non c'è interesse verso the deep experience dell'altro, lo possiamo definire un ANALFABETA EMOZIONALE. E' come un Mago: sparisce quando è il momento di sintonizzarsi con l'altro. Dall'altro lato, c'è una lei con una tendenza a rendersi ever more visible con ogni mezzo

      Questo gioco interattivo nella coppia, è un copione che se perpetuato rischia graduallymente di sfumare nello stalking, che dal punto di vista della sua formation può essere paragonato a una qualsiasi altra ossessione patologica.

       

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      of our students satisfied with
      their training year at LACT *

      International partnerships

      The quality certification was issued under
      the following category of actions: Training action

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