A few generalities, in fact the idea is to finally see what are the mechanisms that are recurring, that can feed the excess of action that is suddenly at stake in the burn-out.
And so we counted three, finally in a way Olivier and Theresa have already mentioned.
And, we are going to bring out a fourth, which corresponds to a more complex degree of the mechanism at play in burn-out.
So the first, as modified, you presented it is avoidance, relational avoidance.
That is to say that the case where we are faced with a difficulty and we will identify that our tendency in the face of this difficulty to do some things, to interact with someone and well scares us and that in this case, as soon as the anxiety is present and well, we will not dare to reveal our concern, we will not dare to ask for help, we will not dare to gather different opinions to better cope with the situation.

And suddenly, we will take it upon ourselves.
And the fact of taking it on oneself, it relieves and we will be all the more relieved if suddenly we are going to be tempted by ourselves to cope by deploying time, by being more in modifications;
being in the later work to try to compound and overcome that difficulty. So suddenly, the more we will be relieved by proceeding in this way, that is to say by sparing ourselves this confrontation with others.
And we are also going to experience that this confrontation there, finally, imagining ourselves having this experience there, becomes more and more threatening and dangerous since we end up not, in a certain way, by carrying on ourselves the wounds of battles that are not fought.
And so, by dint of taking it upon yourself, by dint of trying to overcome these difficulties and well, we will end up isolating ourselves completely, we will end up really not succeeding.
And suddenly this is where the burn-out can be activated.
The second mechanism that can be present and motor is mental control.
So what does mind control mean?
That is to say that we are faced with a difficulty in relation to ourselves, I am anxious for example, I am afraid and I cannot stand this feeling for example. Faced with someone, I'm afraid of their reaction, and there the mechanism in this case will consist in trying to control their future reactions.
And how are we going to control them? By trying to anticipate all his future reactions to provide solutions, in order to avoid being in contact.
And so people who are very caught up in this, in general, what symptoms do they have?
They think about it, so they think they think they think, so they think, they imagine all the possible hazards that could happen, to counter this hazard.
And then, obviously, as they never foresee everything, inevitably they encounter a hazard, and in general after having encountered the hazard, they revisit they revisit they revisit this past in order to be able to better build the future and never encounter it again.
In short, in general the symptoms are suddenly: -we are more at home properly with others because we are thinking about the next day.
-sometimes it's such a headache that we forget to eat, we are more in touch with our emotions and especially with hunger.
-and then obviously it disturbs sleep, and people end up not sleeping at all. So obviously, we no longer sleep, we no longer eat, we are in all the conditions of a good exhaustion, and we end up losing control.
And so, there the engine is going to be the excess of control which will eventually make you lose control and lead to exhaustion.
So it will be necessary, precisely, to help these people to put a little disorder in this order that they try to implement in order to have a better control and suddenly to separate an excess and to fall into the exhaustion characteristics of the burnout.
Associated with these two mechanisms which are mechanisms of action, it is operational mechanisms to be in control or in avoidance.
And there's the belief, which we've already talked about, the reductive belief which can be “I have a flaw, I'm incompetent, soon it will show” or which can be more in the relationship, “I'm afraid to have me ousted”, because obviously the more we are going to be in the action, the more it will isolate us from the others and the more we can encounter difficulties on the relational side.
And so, the more we act through mental control or avoidance, the more it will participate in rigidifying a belief which is obviously particularly distressing.
And if, for example, I take the case of a person who is afraid of being squeezed out even more in his work situation.
Faced with this belief which dominates her more and more and well she will set up a relational mode which will be defensive and, because her relational mode becomes defensive, she will, without realizing it of course since it For her, it's about protecting herself, it will make those around her react.
So to imagine that I open with someone who arrives with an attitude of mistrust which will be justified, who will begin to have a formal relational mode ect ect.. .
It will arouse mistrust on the other side, perhaps on the other side the other person will feel called into question.
We are in a mode where this mode of defense will generate defense, and we can embark on a power game where there relationship regularity no longer works.
And so there, when we accompany these people, the idea is to change their defense modus operandi to be better protected from what they see in their surroundings as threatening and dangerous.
Finally the fourth point is an even more complex point, that is to say that in the other points we can see the aspect of anguish, worry, rage.
Rather, it is the sensations that are associated with the motors of other situations.
But we must not forget that, for others, the fact of doing more and especially when we are strong in control, that we can experience its omnipotence.
And when we are in enjoyment because we perform exploits by acting, well the register, at a given moment, becomes pleasure and no longer the fear that hides behind it.
So when a person is embarked on an omnipotence of action, even if from time to time they may complain about it, if pleasure becomes the register, then this person, by setting up their adaptation system and therefore a solution represented by the action.
It's such a perfect solution, that she experiences some extremely pleasurable things by doing more.
And so it's very dangerous and obviously it's also situations that are very difficult to deal with because the more we try to persuade this person to do less, since we don't see the pleasurable side that doesn't. is sometimes not conscious for this person, and well we will not be able to mobilize it correctly.
The only thing that can make it sensitive is that obviously like any drug, even if it's a particular drug, like all drugs, this drug excess makes enjoyment less tasty.
And so these people are often more receptive to being accompanied in a few more charitable things in their way of getting involved.
We will rather activate these levers there, they are a little more technical tools to use.
So here is what I wanted to present to you in general on the different paths that can lead to exhaustion, and therefore to burn-out.

Thank you for your attention .